I had written a pretty decent portion of this post before accidentally restarting my computer, as luck would have it. There's a saying that goes "all good things come to an end". Sometimes, as was the case with this post, bad things come to an end, too. Thank iTunes for the crap post you will never have to read.
In an effort to make back lost time, this will be pretty short.
Comfort zones: get out of them.
Many of us find ourselves stuck in this cycle where we can't seem to place ourselves outside of what we know in fear of what we don't, but still wanting something "different". Often times, this includes our jobs.
This past weekend, I had the delightful experience of visiting the ol' stomping grounds in Ann Arbor and catching up with one of my BFFs 4evr. While talking, I came to the uncomfortable (har har) conclusion that there is something I have said a lot recently, and I don't like it.
I'm not satisfied with my career or where it is heading. There's nothing to hide here. However, the issue comes with how I look at the darn thing. I was told that there was value to enduring the job, no matter how much I don't like it, in favor of building a better foundation for negotiation. At first, I agreed with this. After all, what do I gain from saying that I quit my first full-time job because "I didn't like it"? But now, nearly a year later, I'm starting to see that this way of thinking may not always be the best. (Keep in mind I'm saying not always the best, not never the best.)
See, what I've been telling people recently is just that: that I'm building my resume. That I just need to finish a few more projects to spruce that baby up. The truth is much worse, and that is that taking a step into looking for a new job makes me anxious. What happens if I quit to look for a new job, and end up not finding anything or making it past any interviews? Then what?
I think many of us think this way. We operate on fear and what if's, based on our wild imaginations of homelessness and not being able to provide for ourselves. Why leave something that is secure?
Well, because when we choose to keep to what we know, we lose the opportunity to learn about the world and grow as people. We stick to what we're "supposed" to do, but who has the authority to decide that?
Think about your passions and goals. I'd be willing to bet you would never have discovered those passions if you had not one day decided to do something you had never tried before. This is my one argument for this, so bear with me: if you looooooove soccer (or "football" for you rest-of-the-worlders), I am willing to bet my life savings that you did not come out of your mother's womb juggling a soccer ball between your feet. At one point, whether you were 6, 16, or 60, you ventured onto the soccer field completely clueless just because you wanted to try (or maybe you were dragged into it, whatever) and found that, WHAT THE, soccerball is AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!
So why are we so scared to step out of the comfort zone that we've built for ourselves? We've literally been stepping into new ground our entire lives. You might want to argue that people are born with certain passions. Fine, but they still had to be discovered. If you love writing, you did not know such a fact until the first time you wrote.
SEGUE! Here's a quote to think about:
If you're new to Word Vomit Wednesdays, each week, Taylor and I will give each other and our friends topics to blog about, hours before midnight on Wednesday. The point being, exercise your brain and be vulnerable! No editing, no proofreading, just your thoughts and post. Let me know if you would like to join us!